What To Ask


Asking good questions, ones that elicit a useful informative response, is fundamental to getting the most out of your consultation. You may find it helpful to look at these  guidelines prior to our meeting. 


Thomson Leng Tarot, c. 1935

Ask open questions…

Closed questions in readings often start with a “Should I?” question, as in “Should I take this job?” or “Should I go out with X on a date?”. These types of question invite a single-word answer, typically yes or no. They imply you’re not in control of your own destiny, that you don’t have free will. Closed questions like these are fine as a general temperature check, but give you little additional information.

 

It’s usually better to ask an open question such as:-

“What are the likely consequences of taking this job?”

“What can I expect from a date with X?”

Asking questions in this way invites unexpected insights and solutions that you may not have previously considered.

If you don’t have a specific question in mind, you can ask something like:-

“What do I need to know most about ...my love life/career/relationship?” etc or “What should be my focus during the next three/six months?”

Thomson Leng Romany Fortune Telling Cards, 1930s

Ask questions that are empowering…

Even better, ask questions that put you in charge of your situation, such as:

“How can I improve my relationship with X?”

“How should I proceed in this situation?” 

“Why do I feel uncomfortable around X?”

“How can I position myself to get this promotion?”

Empowering questions tend to start with “what”, “why”, and

“how”. They put you in charge of your own challenges, choices

and actions. 

Ask one question at a time…

The cards won’t help you answer ‘choice’ questions, such as “would X or Y make the better life-long partner?”  In a situation which involves more than one option, ask about choice one first, then choice two – and so on. Remember that the potential choices may be equally positive, negative or neutral.  

Make your question clear and specific …

Don’t ask about “property matters” if you are buying and selling your home (or have your own home and a rental property). Ask first about the sale (or your own home), then the purchase (or rental property).